Saturday, February 14, 2009

Moving Through Life .................

Happy Valentine's Day

I hope that this day has been a lovely one for you and yours. This morning for Valentine's Day I let my husband sleep in and Max and I went adventuring. We found many wonderful treasures - more about that tomorrow. Max and the husband cooked dinner for me AND did the dishes.

In a recent post I mentioned my Great Aunt Sis. About a year ago she broke her hip and since that time her general health has deteriorated. My Grandma has become her advocate and has taken over her financial responsibilities etc. Considering that my grandmother is younger at 82 years old, the new reponsibilities have taken a toll on her also.

Since last year I have done all that I can to help them both, it has NOT been easy. After a lot screening and visits to dozens of homes we found what we hope will be the prefect place for her. On Friday afternoon we moved her to her new home. We wheeled her in, held our breath and - SHE LOVED IT! Thank goodness.

This issue has weighed very heavily on both my grandmother and I. There have been many days where I just wanted to cry in frustration - frustrated with the hospital, doctors, care home, lawyers - basically the system. My great aunt has always been like a third mom to me (my grandma is my second) and I just want her to be happy in her twilight years.

On Monday I am going to visit her - per her request Max will be coming also :) Through all of this I have learned a lot about my grandmother and my aunt. When we moved her into her new home they asked for a bio about her life - and after all the stories my grandmother has told me about her, after all these years I feel like I am really seeing her for the first time.

I write about this because this issue has been a huge part of my life recently. As the seniors in our lives move on we have to learn their stories and remember their memories and pasts because one day they may lose those. I am grateful for the time I have spent with my aunt, I regret that I did not spend more time with her in the past - but she needs me now and I can give her that. Embrace the people in your life.


1 comment:

  1. I'm so glad you found the perfect place for your aunt. It is a blessing indeed!

    This was a lovely post, but I especially like your thoughts in the last paragraph. Very thoughtful and so true.

    Thank you for sharing this with all of us. ♥


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